Grown-ish, Yara Shahidi, and the Allure of Nostalgia

College sucks. I mean, at least for me, it has been the worst experience of my life. I’ve jumped from school-to-school, on-campus to online, trying to find something that makes school tolerable for me and nothing has worked. I’ve tried two universities and two separate majors across my four years in higher education and all of it has, to put it plainly, sucked. I’ve been angry at the ways these institutions take my money for no reason, how they price gouge for textbooks, how they don’t care about students (I’ve had one actually helpful advisor out of five. OUT OF FIVE.), etc. My on campus experiences have been secluded (partly due to my own decisions, I’ll take the blame for that.) that’s led to depression and loneliness. And yet, after watching the first two episodes of Grown-ish, the Black-ish spin-off that premiered January 3rd on Freeform, I want the college experience.

I want to have a crew of 6 best friends who go out partying and pregame in my dorm and who have 2am study sessions in the on-campus library/Starbucks and tailgate at football games and sneak into frat parties and WHAT?! WHO AM I BECOMING?!

This isn’t the first time I’ve been nostalgic about the “college experience,” but it’s the most profound. I currently go to the University of Florida through their online program, but I’ve been an on-campus student during two separate semesters, both being awful experiences. Not because of the people I’ve met (Shout out to my Acting 1 and Beginning Costume classes! Hope y’all are well!), but because that environment is just toxic for me. I was nostalgic for the classic brick campus and bell tower before, leading me to move back for the Spring semester last year and go “Oh right, this sucks…why am I here?”

Grown-ish gave me the same effect.  The camaraderie the cast shares right out of the gate is infectious and it makes me want to have that same experience.

It brings up an interesting point about how powerful the drug of nostalgia can be. Look at the current political climate: We are all nostalgic for the Bush years because our current administration is led by a human circus peanut and his gaggle of buffoons. Yet, those years included horrible words against the LGBTQ+ community and, oh that’s right, A WAR. That’s where we are now. Nostalgic for a war.

Grown-ish gave me that personal nostalgia drug of wanting to relive an awful experience, which shows how perfectly it understands the college experience today. The 2nd episode revolved around adderall and was pitch perfect in its ability to show how it has become synonymous with the millennial college experience. It was laugh-out-loud funny, while also bringing up some great points. Why has adderall become some common? Is it causing better grades for students across the board? Would students be able to thrive without it?

My favorite part about the show just two episodes in is the lack of condescension towards young people and their ideas. This is a show from the viewpoint of students, not from the viewpoint of adults about students. It makes everything feel more truthful and more lived in.

Yara Shahidi, activism goddess walking among us peasants, was recently on The View. Her talking points were all eloquent and thorough and helped me understand certain buzzy topics, like the current protests in Iran (for those unaware, she is Iranian with family members currently in the thick of the protests.) However, everytime she made a great point that deserved applause from the audience (commonplace on The View), the co-hosts had to point out her age. Meghan McCain said, after Yara’s thoughts on the recent Tr*mp “Bigger Button” tweets, “By the way, that is a very good take for a 17-year-old.” After Yara’s informative thoughts on the Iranian protests, Whoopi Goldberg gave a congratulatory “go ahead!” I don’t think either of these women meant to come across this way, but both comments came across as condescending. A 17-year-old? With an opinion? THAT’S SMART?! Say it isn’t so!!!

Grown-ish is proud about the commentary it has on the millennial experience, the college experience, the black experience, etc. It should be proud, it’s speaking with voices we haven’t heard from yet on television and it’s so refreshing.

Grown-ish airs Wednesdays at 8pm EST on Freeform and I really suggest you tune in. It’s a fantastic comedy about what our generation deals with in college. Appreciate all it has to say, but if you’re getting nostalgic for the college experience, be sure to really¬†consider it before you jump back into the real-life environment. Take it from one who has been there and back. Woof.